13 Reasons Why Marriage Fails

When there is marriage break up or divorce who gets the blame for it, the husband or the wife? If you are a lady the tendency is that you will support the female folks and choose the husband; the sane goes for the man. It takes a wise person to declare the truth and the truth is they are both to blame; remember what they say “it takes two to tango”. Divorce is a big case and it is erroneous to assert that only one person may have caused it. Retrospectively, the act of looking for whom to blame is actually a number one (among others) reasons why marriage fails because in every relationship where there is bound to be a conflict what matters is the cause and effect. How you reacted to your husband or wife’s fault or weakness matters a lot. The fact that he is a drunkard, or she is unfaithful unfortunately is not the major reasons why marriage fails but the combination of the cause (drunkard or adultery) and the effect (reaction). Where you too hard, unforgiving, ignorant, immature, hypocritical, impatient, judgmental etc during the cause of the problems? If yes, then you also have a share in the blame. Who says marriage is a bed of roses? When you married him or her, the weaknesses of your spouse did not disappear, what gives was you agreeing to love him or her whatever it is “sickness and in health”, and weakness is as bad as any sickness you might know of.

Reasons For The Breakup Of Marriage

1. Blaming mentality: This is one of the major reasons why marriage fails. A responsible person is one who takes responsibility of problems. However, it is human nature to look for whom to blame when there is a problem somewhere like the marriage. When a man and a wife are joined together as one, they begin to perform the marriage mathematic which is 1 + 1 = 1. Normally, it should be one plus one equals to two but due to Gods declaration that “two becomes one”, the calculation above is therefore established. This means that when there is a problem, “you” becomes a thing of the past, “us, we, our” becomes the order of the day thus removing the “you are to blame mentality”. Marriage is not a fault founding ground, it is a different live that involves taking responsibility, the fault finding stage is the dating or the courtship stage but due to the habit of putting the cart before the horse, doing the wrong things you have no business doing, the fault is overlooked or missed and once you are caught in the web of marriage you have no business discovering faults that you ought to have discovered before marrying him or her. But unfortunately, many people do in marriage what they ought to have done during dating and courtship; a time where they had the time to play James borne, find out all they should about the other person and gauge if they are able to tolerate what they have discovered; if it is something that you are not able to tolerate; quit, disappear, fly, run as fast as your legs can carry you; it is allowed as long as you have not complicated things with sex, pregnancy etc. So when there is problem work it out instead of running away, there ought to be no room for quitting in marriage.

2. Do not put the cart before the horse: Have you met the man or woman you would love to say I do to? Good congratulations but it does not stop there, it is just the beginning. Have you done the right thing, like knowing him or her as much as you should like investigating, and perceiving him or her? Are you engaging in sex before marriage? Are your reasons for marriage right, how much of his fault do you know; can you tolerate the ones you have discovered? All these are important questions that need answers before you marry. One advice here, if you really need to do the right thing, which might be the ability to withdraw conveniently if occasions calls for it, don’t get your senses corrupted by sex, for it will destroy your ability to perceive right and create premature commitment that makes you continue instead of ending the relationship before it gets to the marriage stage.

3. Ignorance

4. Unforgiving spirit

5. Not depending on God for guidance but man and self

6. Seeking and taking advice from wrong sources

7. Sex before marriage – fornication

8. Untreated personality disorders

9. disrespect and in-submissive character (in the case of wife to her husband)

10. Lack of romance in marriages

11. Lack of appreciation and acknowledgement

12. Another reasons why marriage fails is misunderstanding

13. imbalance between faithfulness and love

The reasons why marriage fails is many and they are unfortunately not been identified and adopted to combat marriage failure.