Humans are social beings. We all like to move around with each other and like to talk to everyone and share our views and ideas. When this conversation is between the same gender we do not hesitate to put in our views or our style of wordings. But when it is between opposite genders then we generally tend to shilly-shally. This is not because the individual does not know how to talk but it is because the person does not know how to start the conversation.

Every individual is different in different ways.  They have different accosting methods and the way they deal with others (particularly girls). But certain approaches are very common and necessary. Starting a conversation with girls always requires a very soft touch in the voice of the boys (who are usually rough by nature).  Moreover if you want that girl to be your soul mate then take your approach should be very sophisticated and dignified. Some the basic tips to be followed when starting a conversation with girls are given below. These rules give you some idea in the way of approach.

Tip 1:Do remember to address the girl with a “hi” or “a perfect smile” or saying “good morning”. This begins the conversation and gives you some time to think about what to start next. This is the first and foremost tip. By addressing the girl you always have a better chance to talk because the girl waits for the next sentence from you.  The smile which you put on your lips is the best indicator to the girl about your veracity. So put on a very genuine smile and accost her.

Tip 2:Share some of your interests with her. It might happen that you both might have common interests. When you talk to the girl be sure you look straight into her eyes but not away from her. This is a simple body language which every one of us understands; i.e. if you look straight into a person during conversing it means that you want to talk to that person. And if you look away from that person that means you are no longer interested in conversing with that person. The same strategy applies here too. More over looking straight into the girl it gives her sign that you are a very confidant person. Girls like confident men.

Tip 3:When you pick some topic to talk ensure that the topic is light and gentle and not involving any arguments or serious topics. If she is your colleague then talk some topics outside office work about some movies or recent books which she read. For example, when you see her with some sort of book in her hand then start the conversation with that by saying, “Oh! That book is very interesting to read and it has some very interesting points to discuss”.  Even if you have not read the book, then say that “ I think you like reading books.” And then tell her about some book which you have read or just divert from the topic and talk about some kind of music or movie or some painting. But do not go in detail discussion about those things too. She might also feel that you are a boring person.  You can say like” Hey have you seen the recent movie by Tom Cruise or Jim Carrey? Did you like it?” if she says “yes, then you also respond by telling I think its awesome”.  Keep your discussion lively. And one more thing, serious discussion gives a bad impression of you over the girl and thinks about you to be the worst guy. So do not give a chance of that impression. When you are like her, give her the picture that you are the most optimistic and smart guy.

Tip 4:The best thing to get the conversation continuing is to make her laugh or smile. Girls like men with light sense of humor. If she responds to it then you can think that she is also interested in conversing with you.

Tip 5:Girls also like men to be good listeners. So listen to what she says in a very keen manner. Show to her that you like to listen to her when she talks.

Tip 6:Last but not the least show her your cool demeanor by your dressing style. Your dressing style also has impact on the girl. Be sure to dress up in a neat and genuine way and avoid gaudy shirts.

Gist: Conversing with girls does not require special training, but simple understanding of girls that they are soft physically by nature and have a very sensitive heart. Every poet compares a girl with a flower. You need not be a poet when you start a discussion with her (getting some line of poetry does make the discussion more heartful and pleasant!!! But mind you not at the very beginning of the discussion.), but try to more genuine and poised. Stick to one point and do no beat around the bush. In the end what all matters is your cool conduct, lighter humor, thoughtful and optimistic attitude. There are no hard and fast rules to teach conversation with girls but simple techniques of body language and attitude. With these ways the next time you see the girl she herself tends to talk to you.

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Now-a-days obesity is becoming a big issue. Where ever we go we see people with heavy physique not even able to walk properly with their excess weight. Moreover because of the sedentary jobs people are not even giving a thought on their body and health. The result of this is frequent health problems and family disturbances. Many people even go to doctors for routine check ups of their weight and weight related problems. Generally men are not that concerned about weight until or unless his spouse or girlfriend takes that matter to him. Even if told by you it becomes a sensitive topic because your husband might feel bad about it and also might feel that you have started hating him because of his excessive weight (since he also knows it very well that he has put on weight). Nevertheless you can indicate to your husband and motivate him to loose his weight by following some tips which might be helpful.

By following these tips you may not make him loose his weight overnight but in the course of time, he might realize that weight is always a serious issue concerning his health. The tips to be followed are:

Study  His Daily Activities: 

Before giving him motivation just study his daily activities and the way of life he is leading in home and outside the house. This will be helpful for you to check the minor points which you might foresee because of the daily course work. This might be the food habits like “if he is having any junk food outside the house” or he is completely attached to his chair in office, the amount of exercise he is getting daily; sometimes due to any tensions also he might gain weight so keep an eye on this. By verifying this you can rule out some points and stress on those which are majorly affecting your husband’s weight.

Tip 1: If your husband is having junk food outside your house then indicate it in a polite manner by saying “I can prepare that food item in the house more neatly and tastily and hygienically. So please tell me if you want to have anything of that sort”. If he reacts positively then make sure when preparing any cuisine of his interest do not go for heavy oil or cheese stuffing. On the contrary, put any substitute which is harmless and reduces his weight in that item. He might not like it in the beginning but in the course of time he might show an interest for it. When he gets accustomed to that item in your style of cooking, gradually change it by preparing those items which have more fiber and which will be helpful in reducing you husband’s weight.

Tip 2: Even in your house, stock you refrigerator with healthy meal options like fresh fruits and vegetables. If in shopping malls your husband’s eye catches on the junk options indicate to him that in the course of loosing weight some sacrifices are necessary or else to be economical junk food options is not best.

Tip 3:Even after doing this some husbands are pretty egoistic and sneak at your back eating junk food. In that case your positive attitude always helps in dealing the situation. Sometimes go in for healthy teasing; that means the kind of teasing which you always used to do before your marriage or during the first years of your married life and husband used to like always without feeling bad. By doing this you make him to give a look at his body structure. Slowly when he becomes very conscious about his physique you can ask him to go for some physical exercises.

Tip 4:The amount of exercise which your husband gets daily can be studied easily. Also check the time period of his sleep. By ensuring this you can make some tiny changes in his sleeping period like if he is sleeping for 10 hours , change it to 8 hours gradually. Also motivate him to go for jogging. This can be done if you ask his help to be your jogging mate. If jogging is not possible at least an evening stroll or morning walks will be helpful. By doing this you can indicate to your husband that there can be some private time for you both to talk atleast in the walking. When he shows his interest then talk some light topics which are more joyful and make him laugh. This not only motivates him to join you in walking or jogging but also helps him reducing his weight “because laughing is the best medicine”. Normally after doing morning exercises, people generally tend to think that they had enough for the day and start sitting in the chair and working or watching movies. This will not be of any help rather by doing this they will be nullifying that small exercise which they did in the morning. In that case, constant reminding that sitting continuously will nullify the physical strain which he has done in the morning might be of some help; also do give him some suggestions like, to not to use the lift while coming out from office or walk certain distance before getting a taxi.

Tip 5: Sometimes it so happens that because of excess workload in office your husband might be getting tensed up and getting obese (people also get obese because of tensions). In that case, lend him your ear and give him confidence that everything will be alright.

Shower him your love in loosing weight but do not pamper him or pester him. Give him your support in loosing weight. Tell him that being obese does not lower your affection towards him. And your intention in indicating about his weight was to tell him to be fit and healthy. Obesity can come due to various reasons. But constant monitoring of one’s health and physical fitness exercises can lead to a healthy body, mind and soul.

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