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Parenting that Matters

Over the ages, parenting has been a major concern all over the world. If the world must be a better place for humanity, then parenting must be well...

 

Over the ages, parenting has been a major concern all over the world. If the world must be a better place for humanity, then parenting must be well looked into. This is because; the family is the smallest unit that makes up the world. Some new parents have received conflicting information about the subject matter, thereby leaving them confused. This write up will highlight the result of empirical research for successful parenting.

 

Here we go…….

  • Put yourself in good shape at first. There have been various researches that say that children are negatively affected when their parents are undergoing stress. Although, some children may not be bothered with their parents’ stress. Yet the result of the research shows that a greater percentage of the children are negatively affected. Hence, it is therefore necessary for parents to practice stress management so as to have a positive impact on the children.
  • Parents must prevent bad conduct. The parents are encouraged to have a foresight to plan and establish measures to prevent misbehavior in children. Flogging and or nagging will not probably do this. The methods recommended in this case are: tutor the children to cope with situations that may arise; try to see far beyond the present time to avoid any problem from arising; ensure the children are busy, engaged and active especially when they seem to be bored.
  • Seek to know more about child development. The tutelage of experts is very germane. The parents need to acquaint themselves with the behaviours that are common to every stage of child development. At every age and or stage, their emotions and feelings can be well understood by the parents. This acquaintance helps the parents to know how and the best way to respond to the child when such behaviors are exhibited. If you will need to pay to get the knowledge, then do so.
  • Model and encourage praise. Every problem cannot definitely be solved by nagging, verbal reprimand or any other ways for punishment. One better way to get the children learn and sustain a good habit is to model it with you, encourage such habit and praise it. With this, it is sure that the children will stay and sustain the good habit. The praise must be indiscriminate and honest. It is also recommended that the praise be accompanied with a gentle and lovely smile and touch.
  • Make out time for the children. Generally, parents are often preoccupied with both office and domestic issues to the extent that there will be no time to spend with the children. There is great danger in this. It is recommended that some good hours be spent with the kids doing nothing but to pay rapt attention to the child while expressing good thoughts and feelings with the child. The parents can go out for gym, relax at the beach with the whole family or go to the cinemas or games centre just for fun and relaxation. This has been proven to yield positive result in child behaviour.

Parental Behaviours that May Cripple the Future of a Child as a Leader

 

Parenting is not so easy. This is because you will not only take care of yourself as a parent, but you will also take care of your spouse and the kids as well. And every step a parent takes may have a far reaching effect which may be either positive or negative on the kids. Every parent is therefore recommended to be extra careful in relating with their children. This write up will examine some parental behaviour that may have serious negative effects on the future of a child as a leader.

 

Let’s be on the move…….

  • We never share the mistake we had in the past with the kids. Children generally love to do their own things in their own ways. The parents should allow them. But the parents can only provide guidance revealing your personal mistakes that you made as a parent who had passed through that age before. This will enable them to make good choices. They should also be prepared to take responsibilities for their actions.
  • Many a time, parents misrepresent influence, giftedness and intelligence for maturity. Somehow intelligence is used as a measure of maturity for a child. With regards to this, some parents think such child is ready for the world. In so many cases, it is not so. Giftedness in one area of life does not translate to all areas of life.
  • Parents never put into practice what they preach. The parents have a great responsibility to model or carve a life that we desire to have the children lead. The children learn so easily from the parents because at least they live together for a period of time before living alone. If parents cut corners, the kids will notice it and do same. If parents are morally good, the kids will notice it and imbibe it; and then return same to the society.
  • Parents often disallow the children to encounter and solve problems by themselves. When parents quickly swoop-in and overindulge the kids with amazing assistance, then the parents have removed the need for the children to experience hardship and solve their problems on their own. This kind of parenting style is short term, leaving the children to miss the greater point of being a leader – which is getting equipped and armed to solve problems without supervision.
  • Many parents have refused to tutor their kids to learn the realities of life. The children must know and be armed with the features or the realities of the world they are about to face as an independent individual. They should know that life is not a bed of roses. And that it is full of ups and a lot of downs. That in the eventuality of them fall, they should console themselves and be prepared to stand up and fight ahead to the winning spot. Kids without such skills will not be seasoned and conditioned to face life. And will therefore make a mess of his future as a leader.