Collaborative Divorce – A Better Way
Marriage is suppose to be a “I will love you to death affair”, a relationship that can only be broken by bands of death, a together forever condition, which is how God made it to be, but unfortunately things are on the contrary. The vows of marriage is broken without much ado, couples marry to divorce, fast food divorce institutions are erected to oil the wheel of divorce procedures reeling out policies like collaborative divorce that is “suppose” to reduce the pain of divorce procedures, hence providing people with the perfect escape route of foolishness. Divorce is an evil, it should not be tolerated, if people will look more before they leap, go back to the drawing board and reconnect to the originator of marriage for wisdom, the cases of divorce will reduce if not eliminated and divorce encouraging tool like collaborative divorce will not be necessary. Divorce by mutual agreement and arrangement maybe seen as a messiah in the divorce proceedings, but it is not the answer that man needs, applying this policy is like attempting to use evil to curb evil.
Overview- Is collaborative divorce really the way out? It is a significant sign man has given up or not even attempted to fight divorce. Why has the system accepted this evil? Why should man who has displayed magnificent power over creation allow divorce to crumble their resistance: the same man that has displayed so much power in mastering the environment with great inventions like: electricity, aviation, building and construction, internet, and so many other wonderful creation become a tool in the hand of trivial issues like divorce. Why can’t humans marry and stay married, surely the effort required in this is nothing compared to the fit that man is capable of and has achieved?
It is indeed a thing of tears, not because of divorce, no, it is a thing of tears because the answer to the problem is so simple, so available, so abundant more than the resources used in most of these inventions, be that as it may, it will never be adopted, not to talk of accepted and executed. What is collaborative divorce?
Collaborative divorce, is it really a better way?
Before going into what should be done to avoid divorces, a ground of recognition will be established concerning the term collaborative divorce. This is an alternative resort to a already bad condition, it was initiated due to the disgruntlement involve in divorce cases, the initiator Stuart Webb a lawyer raised this tool to fight divorce adversity proceedings, especially in cases that involve children. This move opened up another form of law called collaborative family law constituting group of lawyers/professionals dedicated to bringing peace to a chaotic proceedings. These collaborative forces are made up of teams of professionals that will oversee various delicate side of marriage with the highest tendency of degeneration they are: collaborative lawyers, divorce coaches, financial specialist, and child specialists. The aim of the collaborative work is to promote peace, reduced tension, mental stress alleviation, financial ease, and ultimately avoid the proceeding from degenerating to more outrageous circumstances. The extent of the work is based on the family distinctive requirements, reason for break up, couples mentality and readiness of cooperation.
No doubt the ideas is not a bad one, but it is limited, and it cannot take away the pain, stigma, and long lasting effect of divorce on the children (if any), and couples involve. The mentality of a “failure” will probably follow the victims to the next home, and the child (children) could become fixated, and operated by a blood line effect. Statistics have shown that children from divorced homes are likely to be involved in divorce cases, hence continuing the evil wheel.
What is the way forward?
The way forward to most people might be collaborative divorce, but eh! It is just a means to a bad end. The bad end is divorce, and collaborative divorce can never make it look good much as it tries, the onus therefore fall on you to possess the right traits and right reasons before getting married. What are your reasons for marriage? What are your personal values; do you know why people marry, what is the aim of marriage, who invented marriage? These are relevant questions that must be answered before you get involve in marriage.
People should stop getting married because they need: “a nest to quench lustful desires, because of age, need for children, beauty and admiration, financial support, and lack of information. These reasons combined with negative traits like: immaturity, greediness, dishonesty, intolerance, fornication/immorality, envy, lack of confidence, low self esteem, complex, impatience, ignorance, and unrighteousness should be eliminated if divorce must be avoided.
God created marriage, whether you believe it or not, that is a fact. The first marriage ever celebrated was in the Garden of Eden between Adam and eve. God initiated it for the sake of companionship, and in other to make it a success, rules where laid down, some are mentioned above. Do you now see how simple it is to prevent divorce, and how difficult it will be for this generation to prevent divorce? So on this ground collaborative divorce might probably be a better way for you.
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