Relationship means a whole lot of things to people; friendship, marriage, dating, business connection etc. This is true because any connection that involves more than one person is described as relationship. All relationships are contracted for a purpose and amongst all types of relationship there is, the marriage relationship is supreme. This is why the study of the common problems in a relationship will bother on marriage and you may be asking yourself why, after all dating relationship and other types do undergo problems, why should relationship in marriage attract so much concern. The reason is because marriage gives birth to other types of relationship. It is from there that the authority of reproduction is recognized, accepted and established (by divinity and otherwise); business associates, boyfriend/girlfriend etc, are humans that came from the womb of marriage. Apart from this, it is an institution created by God and unfortunately a part or phase of human life that receives the most perturbing human challenges. A family circle is an offspring of marital vows, and it represents a microscopic part of a nation and the world at large. Do you now see why common problems in a relationship discussion should be centralized on marriage? Couples in marriage are ignorant of the responsibility that is inherent marriage and having children. By the time people view of marriage extends from self to a wider scope as the nation, they will be more serious about taking the marital vows.

Marriage Overview And The Responsibility Involve

Marriage is a serious business and since it is an entity of its own (relationship), as the human body and life demands care and attention to prevent problems like sickness/diseases etc, so does relationship require care, attention, “TLC”, to prevent problems, breakdown, divorce and what have you. Divorced couples are myopic when it comes to marriage, they are immersed in “I and me” mentality instead of “us, we and they mentality”. The sooner you learn that marriage is not about you, but us (husband and wife), we (husband, wife and children) and they (husband, wife, children and others) the sooner you will adopt survival instinct. In a good marriage circles the trend should be husband looking out for wife and wife looking out for husband and when children arrives, the relationship arrows embraces them also. So selfishness and self righteousness are one of the major common problems in a relationship. If you are asked why marriage breakup, you will most likely not think in this direction. Look around you, social scientist’s statistic of 50 divorces cases out of 100 marriages is fast becoming a joke, with the constant increase in marital problem, the future increase of divorces looks very promising and it all boils down to common problems in a relationship.

Do you know that what a society becomes; good or bad, is primarily determined by parents. Yes, good parenting gives birth to good children, who go out into the world and coverts and inject their good home training into the society. Great personality in the past and today owe their achievement to good parenting and those who due to no reason of theirs, had bad parenting or grew up without parents, must have had a mentorship while climbing the ladder of life. So it is indeed a huge business, if you are getting married or considering the experience. Have you thought of your responsibility to the marriage, do you have the much need knowledge and experience to fight the battle in marriage, what exactly do you know about getting married? Think, think and think again before you take the plunge because your society waits to benefits from your choice.

Problems in relationship – marriage

1.                  Self Centeredness: This has been discussed to a certain extent above. Marriage relationship is not for self interested people but people who are ready to invest all they have: body, soul, mind, intellect, time, experience, maturity etc to the success of marriage.

2.                  Ignorance: Another great problem in marriage is lack of knowledge. People all over the world perish for lack of knowledge; what do you know about that man except that he is good in bed, handsome, rich, loving (especially to you) etc. Did you practice premarital sex before marriage? If so know that your judgment of your spouse is faulty. This faulty act already enlist your into the lists of possible failure and this can start manifesting after the whole funfair is over (mostly after 2years of marriage) when troubles starts calling what you think you knew of your spouse will become baseless and useless.

3.                  After Child Birth: When children start coming in also constitutes common problems in a relationship.

4.                  Money issues

5.                  Maturity problems

6.                  Not ready for responsibility

7.                  Myopia: Inability to project into the future, lack of foresight and imagination

8.                  Ignorance of roles identity

9.                  Humility, respect and submission

Anything worth doing is worth doing well. If you want to get married and make a success out of it, study these common problems in a relationship and reassess your reasons and decision before saying “I do”.

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