How To Create Positive Relationships With Others

As social beings, we are literally surrounded with people related to us in one way or the other. These relationships vary on the continuum of formality and creating positive relationships with others can often prove very helpful in the different spheres of our lives. Whether be it with a potential friend, the significant other, a teacher, a student, a neighbor, a pet, or a business partner, trustworthy relationships support us in different manners, from rendering happiness to providing financial profit. Now let’s look at certain manners in which we can develop and nurture optimistic relationships with people around us:

· Trust is the building block in every relationship. Trust has been, and will forever be the foundation on which a relationship develops. In every relationship, there must be enough space where trust can reside. Trust is the breathing air of every positive, successful relationship. Once this trust is gone, it hardly comes back and creates scopes for misunderstanding; a lack of trust gives birth to suspicion which can be very harmful in extreme cases. So, it’s a responsibility for both of you in a relationship to maintain the trust.

· Dependability is another key point of a successful relationship. If you want to create and sustain a long-term positive relationship with anyone, you have to give him/her feeling that he/she can depend on you. You would be there when he/she needs it. If someone cannot depend on you when necessary, you will lose the respect you hold in their eyes, and eventually lose the important position in his/her life once you used to hold. Thus dependability is very much essential in sustaining a relationship.

· Another crucial point in creating a relationship is provision of time. You have to give the other person as much time as he/she deserves. A lack of it may indicate ignorance on your behalf. A relationship will only succeed if both of you give each other time and thus portray that you are important to each other.

· One often forgotten trait that helps create a successful a relationship is that relationships do not necessarily always require intimacy, poking your nose in the other’s business all the time. If the other thinks, he/she will share it with you anyways; you would not have to ask for it. So, always remember to give the other person some space; for breathing, for having some of his/her personal time, where no one is and should not be allowed, ever.

· If you ask me, I would say one very important way of creating and enhancing a positive relationship with others is listening to them. As simple as it sound, listening is often one thing each party involved in the relationship want to do the least. If you let the other speak out his/her mind, you need not ask everything, eventually he/she will be encouraged to tell you when he/she sees that you are listening. So, a key ingredient never to be taken for granted and forgotten is listening.

· Another point that, if forgotten, can jeopardize a relationship is care. You have to let him/ her know that you care for him/her. You would be his/her crying shoulder when necessary. Not only this, you should also learn to care for his/her surroundings. This entails a positive relationship. One way of showing that you care is simply remembering important events in his/her life. You can buy him/her gifts or surprise them with anything they admire. Do it and trust me you would not regret it.

· Next comes another significant point, do something for him/her; not buying presents in this case of course, but lend a helping hand in his/her daily chores. Doing so helps you to get to know him/her better and nurture your relationship in a more positive manner.

· If, in some cases, the other person is to tied up in life and fails to contact, do not hesitate or let your ego come in the way, you contact, to ask his/her whereabouts, to enquire whether he/she is facing some trouble and requires assistance. Thus you can enhance your relationship and go a long way in lasting the relationship.

Finally, what it all comes down to? Relationships abound around us, but still some relationships are the most valuable assets one can have. Only someone who does not have any positive relationship to cherish, to depend upon, to remember and smile can understand how significant positive relationships can be. So why not go that extra mile, why not extend that hand for someone that you truly care for? Anything you do to create and maintain a positive relationship is not enough; it still requires more. But nevertheless, it is always worth it.

Picture- Samchio.