Dealing With Frustration In Your Life

Many things in our life doesn’t seemingly happen the way we want them to happen. This leads to frustration and it is possibly the simple way by which you can define frustration too. The onus of dealing with frustration in your life rest on you and it is you only who has to find the solution to it. Frustration also works in positive way because it then inspires you to get the solution and learn from your experience. The negative way in which frustration works is by making you the victim of circumstances and accepting your defeat. This then leads life into the black hole where one has to make one after another, many sets of compromises.

I am writing about it today because yesterday evening I was frustrated with some events that had happened in my office. First I reacted to it and then I talked about many stupid things with my colleagues before realizing that I had already became a victim of frustration. It was towards the night only I analyzed the whole scenario in which my life was spinning and subsequently I reasoned it out. Today I am out of that feeling but nevertheless here I am to share the experiences with you.

Frustration is

1) When you don’t have control over what is happening around you

2) You want things to be done in certain way but that doesn’t happens

3) Its basically whatever you want is not what you see happening in front of you

We become victim of frustration when we see

1) Our life has come to a standstill because of it

2) A particular instance has become like a speed breaker

3) We are helpless and there is no solution available

It is at this point

1) We break

2) We react

3) We become dejected

Unfortunately for most of us the process ends here only and it takes long time before we recover from frustration. Time is a big healer and it erodes much of negative effects with it. But the intervening period is very bad and something where we always have wished to get some help from one place or the other.

The solution to most of the problems lies in recognizing that there is a problem. If at the heat of moment we can recognize that there is a problem then the solution become easy and simple too. So to kill frustration you have to get better at it. It is the control over your body and your senses that can help you stay calm and balanced in any situation. So let’s talk more about it now

It is very important for you to know

1) When you are losing your control on your senses

2) When your body has started to emanate negative vibes than positive

3) When something has really started to affect you.

It is at this point

1) You have to catch the feeling of frustration in you

2) Tell yourself that frustration seems to be getting inside me

3) Make yourself aware of the feeling

It is a crucial step because in this step you have ideally identified the problem and once it is done you are all prepared for the solution.

Identification of the problem would in itself

1) Help you to be in control

2) Will let you have better control on the senses

3) Know how to manipulate then getting manipulated

Once you have identified that you are getting frustrated, immediate next step is not to become victim of it. Yes we become victim when we

1) React to it

2) Talk stuff which is not intended out of us

3) Expose our inner self in front of others.

This is really bad part because one weak moment exposes us and makes us do things which we would not have ourselves intended. Realizing that frustration has taken over and in effect it is very important to take the first step by not becoming the victim of it.

The first part being taken care the next part is about dealing with frustration in your life. The simplest of ways to handle frustration is

1) To take break

2) Leave the scene for the moment

3) Get your mind off the track

This is initial and the most effective step. To get your mind off the things that are troubling you for the moment is the best part you can do. It cannot be compared to escaping the situation but it definitely is a temporary solution.

Once you have done that the logical step is to reason it out or look for alternate solution. You can always reason it out by

1) Looking at situation from all angles

2) Injecting the positive aspect

3) Not withholding yourself as centre of all actions (It is human tendency to feel that everybody is against them)

If reasoning doesn’t works look for alternate solution

1) Accept that things can be worked out

2) Accept that it needed to be resolved

3) Prepare yourself for new battle.

Once you have come to conclusion and have a game plan you would find that your enemy has changed all together. Now you are a different person and not the one who was victim of frustration some moments ago.

It is all about flick of the moment where you need to recognize, asses and make a quick decision. This is all the more important for people who suffer from great depression because of all the frustration in their lives.

Yesterday, as already talked about, was a bad day for me. Not only I became victim but got manipulated by the feeling of frustration deep inside me. But then I was quick to realize what was taking over me and I quickly took the preventive actions that I just discussed.

It is entirely on us to whom we give an importance in our life. The more important a particular thing becomes, the more control it exercises over us. Make sure to get calm and control your senses before you get controlled over. There is nothing more important than you and you have to remember that at all the moment.

Dealing With Frustration In Your Life

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