Do People Dislike Me – Kill The Myth
As we live in a society we need to communicate with people including our family members, relatives, friends, colleagues etc. Often we get hurt by the other people’s behavior and a very obvious thought comes into our mind- do people dislike me? Well, let’s think on the other way around. Do we like all the people we met in our day to day life? The answer is definitely – No, and why so?
When we meet someone for the first time some certain things draw our attention. Like his/her attitude, communication style, manners etc and if we like these things we eventually start to like that person. There is another scenario, where we do not like a certain person when we met him/her for the first time but as the time goes by we get the chance to know him/her in a better way and start to like him/her. This implies liking or disliking someone is not rigid, it fluctuates with time, situation and relationship.
Another thing that plays a very important role in your social life is your personality. If you are a very social person, who can adjust in any situation and can communicate with people very easily, I am sure the thought like- “do people dislike me?” do not come to your mind so often. As you are of extrovert characteristics you can make friends very easily and most of the time you find that people like your company. However, being extrovert does not necessarily mean being liked by the other people but most of the time an extrovert person does not feel this kind of crisis.
On the other hand, some people are introvert in nature. They do not feel comfortable to communicate with people and think that people do not like them as they are boring. See, the problem is not the other people rather he himself. Because of his low self esteem he thinks other people are judging him and as he is not so social they are thinking he in a boring kind of person and hence come to the conclusion that people dislike him. Actually the fact is, he does not like himself and that is why he always finds the people around him very judgmental. There is a famous saying, you reap what you sow; if you are a social person and like to contact with people around you with a cheerful, healthy and content mind, it is obvious that people will like you. On the other hand, if you do not like to communicate with people and do not love the company of others, it is also very obvious that people will not like you much. So the question you should ask yourself is not, do people dislike me? But do I dislike myself or others around me?
If you want to find the answer of this question you by sitting on a couch one fine evening by analyzing each and every relationship of your life you will never find the answer. Or if you go on a quest for why you always fill your mother does not like you the way she like your other sibling, or why your teachers never liked you the way you expect them to like you, you will never find a answer either. To find the real solution of your problem, you need to do some inside work on you mental approach.
You can start with a simple mental exercise. Try to think about someone you really like and who means a lot to you. Remember some of the memorable moments you spent with that person. Now try to dislike him/her, try to get annoyed with those moments you spent with him/her. It is not possible to feel this way. No matter how hard you try you will never be able to dislike him/her even virtually. You can find this example a very laughable one, but it proves a very important fact and that is two extreme emotions cannot dwell in the same space.
Well, readers this is not the situation all the time. Sometimes people might treat you badly and you should not have to take it. Do not let that bother you. It is their problem not yours. For doing this, as I mentioned earlier, you need to change your mental attitude. Do not let you judge yourself by others behaviors toward you. Be confident about yourself and believe in yourself. Try to think positively, like in spite of thinking that the whole world is judging you, try to think that there are some people in your life who love you, care about you and will be there for you no matter what and these are the people you count on not the rest of the world.
Try to practice these positive thinking on a regular basis. You would find the world a better place where you will never wondering about, do people dislike me, rather you will think how lucky I am, there are so many people who likes me more than I deserve!
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