Effective and Active Listening, I am sure most of us might have heard of this in many forms but I can certainly say that not much people would have practiced it ever. The urge to present our thoughts and be heard is very intense in almost every human being. Man is definitely a social animal and the biggest part of this trait is to engage in conversation. No matter what your perspective is, all it matters is that one needs to deliver their thought to others even if it does not hold much weight. While lot has been taught on how we can communicate with others, the vital part of effective and active listening is always missing.

 

Listening has never deserved an importance to the extent that it becomes an active part of conversation. People miss the fact that this is most effective tool in gaining the insight into other person mind, thoughts, and heart. No matter how much you engage another person in active conversation; you are bound to fail if you do not pay much attention to what others have to say. Apart from gaining insight, this is also an important tool to impress and engage other people in conversation.

 

Listening in effect has many exceptional advantages that include

 

1)     Hacking into Other Person Mind

2)     Attracting People

3)     Making Yourself Popular

 

Lets take each point in detail

 

And Most Important – How to Listen we will discuss in end

 

Hacking into other Person Mind

 

People are always eager to talk, mainly because

 

1)     Everyone has its own story to share

2)     Everyone as an individual has inner need to feel important

3)     Everyone cannot control what pops into their mind

 

This gives you an immense opportunity

 

1)     To get knowledge of the person

2)     To know what is inside their mind

3)     To know their thought process

 

This makes Listening extremely useful in

 

1)     Business Situations where you want to know the perspective of person in front

2)     In your everyday life to judge people

3)     In your personal life before you fall into any relationship

 

Yes, all you need is to listen and comprehend what others have to say.  How you do that, that’s for later……

 

Attracting People

 

People love others

 

1)     With whom they can discuss their joys and sorrows

2)     Someone who can feel the pain inside their heart

3)     Someone who help them vent their feelings

 

This presents you with an opportunity

 

1)     To help people to make them feel important

2)     To help people by giving them emotional support

3)     Be part of their joys and sorrows

 

In return all you get is

 

1)     Recognition from People

2)     They would be attracted to you

3)     They would always like to talk to you

 

Once you have got them in frame, you would find People praising you and rallying for you.

 

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Making Yourself Popular-

 

Think of people like lawyers, doctors, politicians. Who do you think are popular? Where People would always like to go?

 

1)     Someone who listens to them

2)     Someone who gives them opportunity to present their side

3)     Someone who can emphasize with them

 

Never ever people would like to go to a person who never listens.

 

1)     How can doctor treat and ailment without knowing the cause

2)     How can lawyer present the case without hearing your side

3)     How can a politician help locals with their issues if he has never heard them.

 

Yes, People love the person who hears them. Everyone flock to the Person who has the ability to listen. Ignore this fact and you would be up for failure.

 

Practice it and you are destined to become much popular than your competitor.

 

How to Listen

 

To make it effective, use it as an art

 

1)     Control your eye movement. Look directly into the eyes of the person you are listening to. Make them (your eyes)  look interested

2)     Show interest by occasional movement of your head

3)     Smile when appropriate and to the extent required

4)     Use appropriate words to engage that person

 

Remember

 

1)     You should not interrupt the person

2)     You need to look interested

3)     You really need to look natural and not phony

 

 

The best way to do that is

 

1)     Taking interest in what they are saying

2)     Forcing yourself into the situation

3)     Keeping your mind active to help you understand various scenarios (and then asking about it)

 

And the best part is when you do that, you become wise because

 

1)     You have naturally started to observe people

2)     You have naturally started to interpret the meaning of their words

3)     You have naturally started to comprehend their gestures

 

 

This has benefit over a period of time when

 

1)     In business situations, where it can help you get insight into the mind of customer, client, colleagues, or deals of importance

2)     In everyday situation where you are expected to grasp things and then come out with glaring ideas

3)     In personal life where you can relate and really help the people around you.

 

Yes, this is an Art which once mastered has a direct impact on your Personality.

 

 

Help People Empty Out their Drums. Get Benefit from what has been spilled out.

 

Sharpen Your Skills. Get Wise with time.

 

Try It. It’s a Recipe for Success. 

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