Are you in pain of some sort, maybe a heart break, betrayal by a best friend? You can actually get over that pain, forgive and move on. Observe the word move on, no matter the degree of your pain, it is necessary that you move on and this can only be achieved through forgiveness. A lot of people see forgiveness as a weakness so in pain and anger fit it is the last thing they consider and would naturally go off the tangent if they are advised to do so. Actually, to forgive in pain and anger is the major step you can ever take towards overcoming pain – that is if you want to. Many people due to how painful there experience is will never consider forgiving and when you advise them to and even mention that it is the only way to overcome the pain, the answer you are likely to get is “to hell with the pain”. The reason is because most people that nurse anger and pain also nurse revenge and the fuel they require to drive them to their goal is the pain and anger they harbor. Unfortunately, there has and never will be anything one can gain from revenge and harboring anger except anguish, sickness and diseases, shame, painful vengeance rebound and a host of other regretful occurrences. Due to these you are advice to learn how to forgive in pain and anger. This and more is what this article is positioned to do read on.

Consequences Of Showing Pain, Un-Forgiveness And Anger

Un-forgiveness is fueled by the negative forces of anger and the inability to let go of wrongs. The make up of the human system cannot tolerate anger, pain and especially un-forgiveness for long, which is why God – not discouraging anger, rather advice that it should not go on for a long time precisely for more than 24hrs “the sun should not go down on your anger”. Stuffing anger in the system breeds un-forgiveness, pain and revenge, which leads to depression and other mental emotional breakdown. Because one is constantly dwelling on wrongs the brain will be in overdrive (i.e. working overtime) causing it to send wrong signals to other parts of the body and when this happens, their will be chaos in your system, boiling rage, irritation that can make one lose sleep, affect appetite, increase blood pressure etc. Under this condition therefore, to forgive in pain and anger is the right way to go. Below are some of the effects of displaying anger and holding on to un-forgiveness.

1.                  Revenge: Some says revenge is sweet, if you believe that kindly go back and ask how they feel after revenge. No doubt some of you reading this article right now, may have considered or have even taken revenge for wrongs in the past, how do you feel after the deed; good or bad? Revenge only looks good when it is imagined and as soon as it is executed, it becomes sour. Take for instance a lady (identified as Mrs. B) who caught her husband cheating on her with her best friend right on her matrimonial bed. Filled with so much pain and anguish plotted for revenge against her best friend who also happened to have a husband who again happens to be the best friend of her husband. Sounds windy right? Well that is the real situation, Mrs. B sought advise from her family who wisely discourage her from taking revenge but un-fortunately for her, she had an unforgiving spirit and combined with the pain makes her to go ahead with her thirst for revenge and carefully she schemed how she can get back at her husband and best friend. The desire for revenge got her into her best friend’s husband matrimonial bed. Feeling she had made her mark, enjoyed a glory for less than a day and after everything, she realized that she is not better than her friend, the husband (Mr. B) started dating her girlfriend openly without remorse and to cut a long story shot, Mrs. B’s best friend divorced her husband and married Mr. B leaving her in the cold, because the girlfriend’s husband discovering that he was used in a jealousy ploy felt nothing but distaste for her and now she is all alone, divorced, ashamed and disgusted for descending so low.

2.                  Mental breakdown

3.                  can bring about sickness and diseases like insomnia, heart attack, depression etc

4.                  It shows level of divinity: It is said that to forgive in pain and anger is divine. Remember to err is human and to forgive is divine? Displaying un-forgiveness shows that you are nothing but fallible, ignorance and foolish.

5.                  It leads to loneliness

These are some of the consequences of harboring anger and pain. It is not easy to forgive after wrongs because some wrongs really cuts deep into the bone marrow, but that notwithstanding, for your own good, you should let go and move on with your life, do not behave like the lady above because you can lose everything.

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