We humans are social animals. We constantly need people around us. We want someone to talk to. We want to listen to someone. The situation of feeling lonely can just kill us. We long to share our hearts content. We want to feel someone’s presence. Being with others makes us feel safe. Being in company gives us an assurance that we are loved.
However, the changing structure of our society is taking a toll on human availability around us. It is taking us away from each other especially on the mental level. It is becoming difficult to always find some company. There is no one to share our feelings to. There is no one to talk to. Everybody is busy in life’s daily affairs. Though there is crowd all around, we often feel lonely.
If you are feeling lonely anytime and not sure how to pass the time or occupy the mind, then the ten points given below will come handy.
1. Pick up a book:
“He that loveth a book will never want for a faithful friend, a wholesome counselor, a cheerful companion, an effectual comforter”
Picking up a book for reading is the most obvious thing you should do in case you are feeling lonely. Books are the best company. Books can elevate you to entirely different world. The characters in the story will become your friends. You will never be feeling lonely with a book in hand.
If you pick up book of your favorite genre, you will not know how the time flies. You will get lost in your own world. Entertainment and knowledge are a bonus.
2. Put on some music:
“Music has been my playmate, my lover, and my crying towel.” – Buffy Sainte-Marie
Put on your favorite music and get drowned in it. Music has a power to mesmerize you. Music can spellbind you. Music entertains, relaxes and rejuvenates. Play some instrument if you can. You can sing along for maximum enjoyment. This will kill the symptoms that give lonely feeling.
“There is a bit of insanity in dancing that does everybody a great deal of good.”
– Edwin Denby
There cannot be anything better than dancing when you are alone. Most of us won’t dance as we are worried about others’ reactions. So, utilize your loneliness to jerk and jive. Dancing can let your frustrations out. Dancing can make you feel light. It will let you forget, rather enjoy, your loneliness.
4. Go out on a walk
“A vigorous five-mile walk will do more good for an unhappy but otherwise healthy adult than all the medicine and psychology in the world.” – Paul Dudley White
Get out on a walk. Other than its health benefits, walking will let you feel like being in the world around and forget loneliness. It may open your mind to new ideas and new world around. This is potentially one of best ways to kill lonely feeling.
“Those who think they have not time for bodily exercise will sooner or later have to find time for illness.”- Edward Stanley
There can never be a better option to utilize your loneliness to start exercising. It will relax your body and fill up your mind. Exercise requires co-ordination between various parts of your body and mind. Mind will remain occupied as long as you exercise.
“Every artist dips his brush in his own soul, and paints his own nature into his pictures.” – Henry Ward Beecher
This is another effective way of putting your loneliness to positive use. Paint whatever you can and whichever way you can. Express yourself through painting. Do not worry about the outcome. Your loneliness may help you paint a masterpiece in its own. This will kill the symptoms that give lonely feeling.
7. Do gardening
“The greatest gift of the garden is the restoration of the five senses.” - Hanna Rion
Let your loneliness get lost in the plants. Do gardening. Pick up weeds. Do the soil. Water the plants. Rake your backyard. Watch the leaves, touch the grass, smell the flowers. Let your small garden to occupy your senses and chase away your loneliness. Tey it and you would not feel lonely again
Loneliness is conducive to meditation. Utilize your loneliness to carry out undisturbed meditation. It will calm your mind and allow you to accept loneliness. Mediation will teach you to be at ease whether you are lonely or amidst people. And if you master it, there is no way you would be feeling lonely again.
9. Clean your house
“Better keep yourself clean and bright. You are the window through which you must see the world.” - George Bernard Shaw
Great option, no? Loneliness provides a perfect backdrop to set things right and put your house in order.
“No day is so bad it can't be fixed with a nap.” - Carrie Snow
If nothing is suitably occupying your mind and letting you forget loneliness, the last but probably the best option available is to hit the bed. Catch that nap you missed taking for long. Your mind will be shut out from the outside world and at the end you will be refreshed and renewed. And when you do that there would be no way you would be feeling lonely again.
There are numerous methods that can be used to kill boredom and the above methods are perhaps the simples one which you can use when you are feeling lonely. There is no investment involved and all you need to do is to keep moving with the flow. Loneliness is just a state of mind. So next time when you are feeling lonely, you know what you need to do.
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