‘Someone somewhere is made for you’ and you need to keep this in mind as you go out to Find The One You Love. Most people go out seeking for love and friendship but are easily disappointed when they do not find it. The answers lie not in going out and finding love and companionship but an internal change within us that make us beautiful from within. Our inner beauty and finer qualities as a human being reflects in our personalities and creates forces that attract people to us. Don’t expect to find your perfect soul mate at parties and social gatherings but at unusual places. You never know ‘love might just be round the corner ‘that’s what love stories are made of.

Research by psychologists of human behaviour reveals that we human beings have a basic and intrinsic desire to love and be loved for the humans that we are. It is natural to love and be loved by someone whom we want to share our most private and intimate moments and above all spend the rest of our lives with. This behavior in itself bubble up the urge to Find The One You Love.

People who are disappointed or heart broken in their first love shut themselves mentally and deny themselves another chance that life gives them. They block all the good that is in store for them. This leaves them sad and disappointed that there is no love for them. One of the main reasons is the feeling that they are lacking something and are not capable of loving anyone. A serious analysis/diagnosis into our own personalities will reveal all our drawbacks and setbacks. All we need to do is put certain simple steps into practice to Find The One You Love which will give you astounding results.

1. Take a firm look at yourself not what you lack but what your real assets are for e.g. jot down all the good things about yourself.

Outer Qualities                                                 Inner Qualities

a) Educated                                                        Kind

b) Smart                                                            Soft Spoken

c) Good looking                                                Generous 

d) Well to do                                                      Loving

e) Successful                                                      Warm Hearted

2. After you have listed your personality traits and your plus points. Ask yourself

‘Why shouldn’t I give myself another chance?

3. Once you have given yourself another chance do not harbour any negative feelings or even doubt whether love will ever happen in your life.

4. Have a positive attitude and optimistic about the future.

5. Give yourself positive affirmations that somewhere there is love in your life.

6. Don’t go seeking love and appreciation which you will never get. It’s equal to begging for love.

7. Be as you are as natural as possible, send out positive vibes and positive vibes will come back to you. This is necessary when you set yourself to Find The One You Love.

8. Don’t look for perfection in your partner as this may disappoint you when you go prepared with an attitude of finding the perfect partner.

9. Imperfections and short comings in one another leads us to discover and grow with one another. This is how men and women around the world complete one another.

10. In our endeavour to find the love of our lives men and women blunder by overdoing things.

11. In the beginning start by being good friends, going out. Find out about one another’s timings and schedules.

12. There are people in this world who do not like people encroaching on their timings or their privacy in the beginning.

13. Start slow and do not rush into things.

14. Do not upset their mornings if they are at the gym. Do not disturb them during office hours or if they are having their weekend nap.

15. Gradually allow them into your scheme of things and your daily schedule and they will also reciprocate in the same manner.

16. You will gradually begin to understand one another and fit into one another’s life perfectly.

17. Don’t be in a hurry to impress them with a personality that you are not. For e.g. if your love likes jokes and talking about funny things, don’t be in a hurry to crack jokes and end up making a joker of yourself especially if you are not a witty or a humorous person. It will leave things in a bad taste as this is not your personality at all. It does not take long to find out that the person was pretending.

18. Show the caring person you are when asking out for a date for dinner or a movie. Discuss your favorite film or a popular restaurant that you both like. This will help both of you to come close to each other as the other person will realize that you care for his/her tastes.

In our journey of finding the love of our lives we must not forget to give one another a chance and a space to grow as individuals respecting one another as special human beings supporting one another in our ambitions to fulfill our dreams and desires. All we must remember is to make one another feel longed and loved and above all emotionally secure in our relationships.

These are some of the time tested rules and regulations which will help us go a long way in helping us find the love of our lives.

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