Happiness And Compromise

The first look might give us a thought as to How Happiness is related with compromise. If we look in our life we would find that both are too closely interwoven to each other. Life is always about happiness but there is always a cost associated with it. The cost comes in many forms and one of it is called as compromise. We always don’t get what we want from life and compromise is one of the way to come in terms with life and happiness. Remember, compromise is not something done by few of us but you can pick any person and you would find that he would have done compromise in one form or the other in life.

Compromise is done mostly to avoid problematic situation and put our life on normal track. If you further look behind it you would find the zeal of happiness to be hidden behind compromise. We want to remain happy in our life and sometimes happiness comes when the people we love are happy. There are numerous examples that support this assumption which infact is nothing but a fact. So let’s talk about it more and see how deeply it is related to us.

Our zeal of happiness and compromise go hand in hand. We want

1) Our Boss to be happy

2) Our family to be happy

3) Our friends to be happy

Each one of those can be happy only when

1) Things happen their way

2) They get the satisfied with the process and results

3) They get a boost to their self esteem and real self

But It is a fact that

1) Each human being is different

2) They have their own views and opinion

3) Not always they agree on same point

So, If the People around you are happy that means

1) Things are happening as per their wishes

2) They are getting what they want easily and comfortably

3) They are more in control of situation

And from your end

1) You let things happen because you want others to be happy

2) You don’t confront because you want to see them happy

3) You don’t put forth your view with fear of confrontation and seeing them feel sad.

So by above we come to a very basic conclusion that concern both happiness and compromise

If Everyone Is Happy With You That Means You Are Compromising Too Much In Your Life

Ask yourself if this is happening in your life

1) Are you living life of compromise to see others happy

2) Are you killing your wishes just to see others happy

3) Are you doing too much compromise just to see others happy.

The truth is Yes. It is a fact and for some people it is a hard fact.

Now the main question- We all do compromises in our life but should the extent of it be so high that it consciously or unconsciously starts to affect your life.

For me the answer is No.

It is important to put forward your view. But equally important is how you put it. By doing this you can live life where limited compromises needs to be made and you get authentic happiness. So the rules that are important are

1) One should not fear to confront others if they know they have a case

2) Most important is how you put your point. Convincing is different from imposing and one should learn how to make others agree to them.

3) The end can be anything but important is not to die with the wishes inside you

Living a life of compromise may not affect you today but it can soon takes its toll. Important is to live the life where you make others happy and do limited compromise.

Now the ball is in your court. I don’t suggest that you go all out and confront others. All I want to suggest in this article is that you need to change the way you face various situations in your life. It is important to make others happy but equally important is not to make your life hell. Compromise and happiness go hand in hand and it is on you how to balance them appropriately in your life.

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