How Not To Live Your Life

This is a complicated question, and seemingly simple answer is do ‘what is right’ and shun from ‘what is wrong’. Now differentiating between ‘what is right’ and ‘what is wrong’ will create many contradictions. What one thinks to be ‘right’ may be ‘wrong’ for other person. Thus this ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ should not be based on individual interests and likes or dislikes but on universal right and wrong. Thus the questions ‘how not to live your life’ and ‘how to live your life’ resembles in nature and they both can be answered by satisfying any one of them.

For example, doing regular exercise is good for health. This is a right thing to do for every one until s/he has been recommended otherwise by the doctor. Thus one should do regular exercise to stay fit and healthy. Likewise telling a lie is considered a bad habit and not acceptable thing in society, so one should try not to tell a lie, if it is not really a matter of life and death.

What is right is good for one and all. What is wrong is sure going to harm you and others as well. Although this explanation can also prove to be contradictory in several situations when what you think is right for you, may not be so for other. However, these all are philosophical view of how not to live your life. In my view, there are some common qualities that one must practice in his/her life, and some mistakes which one should always avoid to do in his/her life. Such as

Do Not Indulge in Self Pity – This is the ‘poor me’ attitude that one nourishes within his/her mind and starts treating oneself as a victim of own luck. This is very poisonous element in human life. If you are use to of indulging in self pity, you will hardly be able to accept challenges in life and struggle enough to win over them.

Let Not Others Dismay You – This is also a big negativity of any fickle and fragile character. Many persons are too fragile to withstand the rigors of adverse situations and comments of others. They often droop in the depression when someone has commented negatively on their skills, efforts or looks. Others comments/remarks matter very much in their life and they always live their life under the fear of ‘what-others-think-of-me’.

Never Do What You Do Not Want to – This is important. One must not take up the task which s/he is not convinced of. Don’t do what you think you should not. And always do what you think you should. If your mind suggests you to help others, you must. But if your heart encourages you to indulge in some unfair activity, take council of your mind first.

Never Insult Others – This is not a done thing. Young or old, you must never insult anyone, ever. To Err is Human. Everyone commits mistakes. And everyone learns from his mistakes. Everyone loves to be respected and do not want to face insult or indignant behaviour. It hurts the heart very much when such unexpected incidents occur in life and may do life long damages on psychological front. Also this is worst form on how not to live your life.

Never Miss an Opportunity to Spread Happiness – You send it out and you will get it manifold in return. Make others happy and you will feel happy a lot more that gave it to others. You should never let go an opportunity to spread happiness around you.

Never Think Negative – They say that ‘You are what you think you are’. And fortunately it is true. Everything outside you is the product of someone’s thoughts. If you start thinking that you are lonely, dejected, poor and unsuccessful guy, then invisible forces around you get influenced with your ideology and starts developing things accordingly. Everyone you meet outside gets the same reflection from you and you keep drowning down and down to abyss. Think positive instead and the whole universe will work to your betterment. On other end, thinking negative is the easiest way on how not to live your life

Never Repent – repenting is sheer waste of time. It has not done good to any one, nor can do any good to you. Learn from your mistakes and get ahead in life. Do correct your mistake if you can but what is the use in repenting or lamenting on something which is out of control now.

Do Not Waste Time – this is last but not least thing one must abide by. Time is the precious pearl among all. If you value time, the Time will value you. We get many temptations in our day to day life which takes their toll on our time, money and efforts, and ultimately delay us to our destination. Have a tight control on our whims and progress ahead without losing the track.

These were some common tips how not to live your life. Your priorities may vary from others. You should have your own understanding of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ and should follow your life accordingly, but must not force your ideology on others, neither should get infected by others.

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