Much has been said about dealing with difficult people along with many short and long term hacks. The web is full of suggestions on what you can do in such situations and how your life can change for better. But the more you read about them and try in actual life, the more you get disappoint and get drifted towards resentment. No matter how much courage you show to change the situation, when it comes to dealing with rude difficult people you need to control not only one but two human minds.

 

The question of difficult person comes only when in some way that person controls or has an impact on your future. He can be your boss, your customer, or anybody who can give you a emotional, personal or financial blow. Yes, we fear many things in our life and the fear of loss is one of the paramount reasons that we exist the way we exist right now. Eliminate that fear and the difficult person no longer remains valuable in your life.

 

Lets first analyze where we are and then talk about what can be done in future

 

Who is a Difficult Person?

 

1)     The one whose behavior is way beyond the normal norms of acceptance

2)     The one who makes us feel bad about ourselves

3)     The one who always put our position of comfort in a risk

 

And why they do that

 

1)     It is in their nature

2)     They enjoy fixing people

3)     They get a kick by doing that

 

And we can encounter such people anywhere in our life

 

1)     An unruly boss

2)     A threatening customer

3)     A vicious teacher

 

In effect they seem to control

 

1)     How we need to conduct ourselves

2)     What is expected out of us in future

3)     How we need to stay in virtual limits

 

 

And the result is

 

1)     We become what we are not

2)     We get humiliated in our own eyes

3)     Everyday is a long journey for us.

 

On the contrary

 

1)     The fault can be ours too

2)     We may be the one to blame

3)     It is we who deserve that

 

But the truth is

 

1)     You can never find your flow in such situations. Blaming makes you risk averse.

2)     When you are at fault there are other ways to treat it. Humiliation necessarily is not the only way.

3)     Your life can never blossom and follow a natural growth pattern.

 

Yes, no matter how much you try your growth will remain muted

 

1)     No books will help you

2)     No advice from self styled gurus will help you

3)     No words of advice from seniors would help you

 

And going against Difficult People is like going against the tide.

 

1)     They are powerful

2)     They would exist

3)     They would prevail

 

So what is the Solution? Do we have a way Out?

 

 

Yes Dude there is a way to it, the way is in your hands.

 

So What you do when

 

1)     You know that road ahead on which you are driving is bad

2)     The brand you plan to buy is not good

3)     The car you want to purchase has got faulty design

 

You

1)     Look for alternative route

2)     You buy some other good brand

3)     You buy different Car

 

Never ever

1)     You try to build road on your own

2)     You make modifications in the brand on your own

3)     You correct the design of the car

 

Why?

 

1)     At max you can complain

2)     It is not in your hands

3)     There is hardly anything you can do

 

In same manner, The difficult person in you life

 

1)     Has got deep rooted habits. Remember Old Habits Die Hard.

2)     Complaining about them is like opening a can of worms

3)     Correcting them is like a useless task because they wont mend.

 

And why would you do that. Who’s got the time. Instead Do what you do Normally

 

Change

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Yes, Get Your Destiny in Your Own Hands and Lookout for the Change

Change for Better, Change for Growth

In example above

1) You change your travel route, now fire your boss

2) You change your brand, look for better customers

3) You buy different car, now change the people who bothers you.

 

Small Example- In 2002 I was much happy with my job but suddenly new Boss made my life living hell. I tried everything but my Boss had deep rooted weird habit to humiliate and harass people. That prompted me to come out from comfort zone and look for better opportunities. I worked hard for change and got excellent opportunity. I was quick to realize where to invest time and how to avoid spoiling it.

 

Don’t let People control your destiny, It’s like killing yourself and moreover who has got the time.

 

Look out for Change. Find Your Own way. Find Your New Way.

 

Remember these people are like stones in your path that help you shape up your personality.

 

 

So next time you want to know How to Deal with Difficult People?

 

 Seek a better Future. Go for Change

 

You Don’t Quit, you get Smart.

 

Adverse Situations bring out the best in you.

 

Opt for Rocking Change

 

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How To Deal With Difficult People

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