Are you one of those outgoing few who always looking to add a new friend or a shy person unable to make friends and never knew how to go about it? You will have great many of them if only you are a little knowledgeable on how to make new friends. Making friends and keeping them for life is an art and sincerity is the foremost quality you will need to keep going. For some, new friends, mean a lot and for both sexes at that. Having a lot of friends is a different way of building clout that you will need sometimes to overcome adversity, especially if they are influential and helpful at the same time.

However for friendship to work best for you, it has to be mutually beneficial and forms the core of the relationship. Respect for each other is equally important to sustain it and grow it as time passes. Some are very adept in the art of making new friends; they will do it while travelling, while in a park taking a stroll or they may even systematically target their friendship portfolio. Friendship again is exclusive to humans; they are not known to exist even in our nearest relations, the ape, in the animal kingdom. Here are some tips that will tell you how to make new friends and how to keep them forever, and where to find them at all.

·        Let your new friends be those who are not neighbors or your colleagues, keep them if you already have, instead look those in the new horizons and variety; businessmen or women, government employees and those who are similar to your own status  and standing. They have to be from within your strata so sharing your concern and interests is made that much easier to sustain. Let, having a common cause in social activities be one of your good ideas about how to make a new friend.

·        Pick up a conversation while you are strolling in a park or garden for your daily exercise and try to spot someone you think you like; a male or a female does not make a difference as long as you are sincere about developing the friendship. Your conversation can focus on admiration or pay a compliment for one of the qualities that attracted you to the person. Some of them can be shy and if really so then try to make them comfortable and try to see what interests them most; find out for yourself with a little efforts and that is how to make a new friend.

·        Keep your mobiles and blackberry off for a while, while you are looking for new friends and don’t let that little piece of technology take away the pleasure of making a new friend. Ask a question or two about the person, not the very personal ones, it should be natural like for example what the person does for a living or where he works or if he has a job. Find out if he is regular around this place and whether it alright to talk with him now. Build up the tempo and ask many more questions and let him know your interests too. Do not press the person beyond a limit; the person may not be interested in you at all. That is natural and you should expect it to happen; not always, you will be successful anyway at the end.

·        Join a club or a team if you are young enough to devote your time. Ask the club or team manager to get a brief on the average age of its members and the background from which they come. Once assured there are enough of your kind, then join and become an active member and pay regular visits to the club. Don’t wait for others to approach you first; just put a lid on your egos and make your move first. You can start by offering to help with a social because the club may be working perhaps, and see how fast you make new friends. Remember that most of them are already there because they want new friends anyway, and you will soon be included in their list. Follow your new friends closely; invite them for a celebration perhaps.

·        Using your listening and patience skills is a wonderful way to how to make new friends. Hear them speak, especially if they are the opposite sex; they may be one of those lonely persons who never get a ear for their words, but refrain yourself about making too many complaints about the life’s way. Most people are already overburdened hearing a lot of tales of sorrows.

Last but not the least don’t forget to pay compliments for the qualities that attracted you in the first place, and how much you will cherish meeting them daily. You can get a little more personal as time flies by. A word of caution: trying picking your friends and avoid throwing a big dragnet to get a big lot them; it is then business, they don’t mix well with friendship.

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