How To Overcome Shyness When Meeting People

In simpler terms Shyness is an awkward situation where in an introvert person is exposed to a large gathering of people or social interactions. People who come across this awkward situation very often generally avoid being at center stage and prefer living in their own comfortable zone.

Biologically or in Behavioral sciences there may be a hundred reasons for this personality trait, but I tend to differ on this. I find an introvert person as natural and normal as an extrovert person. An extrovert person loves to be social and outgoing, while an introvert person prefers being in his own small cozy circle.

There is nothing so complicated about it and this not at all is a sorry situation. I can coin out an innumerable people and even leaders who were shy or introvert by nature but made a big mark in our history books.

So where is the problem? When this shyness arises out of low self esteem, low self confidence, lack of knowledge and Anthrop phobia, it leads to a problematic situation where in an individual is not able to express himself , he becomes too self conscious and nervous. This is where he is personally and professionally affected.

He then starts thinking of How to overcome shyness when meeting people?

I believe that dressing well, giving a good eye contact or walking straight would only give you a momentary symptomatic relief until and unless you work on your basic fundamentals of life for a life long confidence and self-belief. This would definitely help you How to overcome shyness when meeting people?

A few mantras could be -

Know yourself: One small SWOT analysis of oneself is very important as this lets one know that what ammunition god has given him to fight in this world. To know our strengths and weaknesses makes us take simple decisions regarding what we can do? And what we can’t do? This allows us to take the right direction in first place.

Nobody in this world is perfect: GOD has created this world as a beautiful bunch of flowers. Every flower has its own features and together only they make the bouquet look beautiful. Imagine looking at a bouquet with just one type of flowers. Would you buy it? Obviously not.

This is exactly the same with human beings; we tend to be different with varied qualities and weaknesses. This only makes the world an interesting place to live in. If we all would be perfect, then one day we will definitely challenge the God and dethrone him. GOD knew this and therefore gave us a few weaknesses.

The moral is that accept your weaknesses just as you take you strengths. Don’t be shy about it, overcome your inferiority complex, Raise your confidence level, work hard on your strengths and enjoy Life.

Follow your heart: Imagine a situation where Michael Jackson is asked to be a world class runner and Carl Lewis a singer. They for sure, would not be a fraction of as famous as they are. Based on his biology, every man is destined to develop in a certain way and this is foretold only by your heart.

Listen to your heart. Do what you are comfortable in doing and find it interesting. Don’t fall prey to the material pressures of the world. Listening to your heart would give you a lot of confidence in whatever you do as you would be the master of your craft.

You can compare this with earning your daily bread by working on your hobbies. Never would you ever get tired and be a good learner also.

Do mistakes, it’s very human: doing mistakes in part of life. Mistakes often help us realize what went wrong? And how to mend it? People normally are very shy of committing mistakes but they should realize that mistakes would happen only when they do something and doing something is always welcome. At least you are not sitting idle.

Thomas Alva Edison could invent Electric Bulb, only after going thru thousands of scientific disasters or failures. He didn’t bog down to the early failures. The learning is that in the process of reaching the right decision you may very well take a few wrong ones also.

Always have a Plan-B: I tell you, having a Plan-B is always a necessity. If I ask you to climb up a cliff without any assistance, you would be sweating in your pants but you would be very relieved, if I get you a parachute (in case you fall).

Standing in front of a gathering or while meeting with some, if you loose your thoughts is the same.

In such a situation, having a prepared note is always of great help. You would be relieved of the negative thoughts that what if I forget the matter and with your Plan- B, believe me you never will.

Don’t care about what others say: Just have confidence on your own self. Listen to the world but do what, you believe in doing. You are the best judge of your capabilities therefore you only should decide what is right for you. Of course having a mentor or listening to our parents or near and dear ones is of great help but the last say should always be of yours.

Therefore How to overcome shyness when meeting people? is possible only when you increase your self confidence and have a sound knowledge of your skill. Working on your core competences would make you stand up and look the world eye to eye and say here I come……………….

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