There are a lot of books out, which seem to teach you everything you want to know about raising your kids.  But if you really want to know how to raise your kids than you should take notice of the advice from people who have the practical experience, not just the theoretical experience. Of course a book like this could come in handy in lots of situations but you should know that the parental instinct is most of the times right on the money. So you shouldn’t necessarily follow every guideline you see in every book, but you should try to follow your instincts. Still if, you feel you need some advice, here are some of the things I have learned from practical experience.

1.      Love is all they need.  This is the most important thing you should know if you feel you don’t know how to raise your kids: Show them that you love them all the time. A child that feels loved is a happy child. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be harsh with them when they deserve it, but never ever let them feel that you have taken your love away from them no matter what they do.

2.      Don’t let your kids get too spoiled. This is one of the mistakes most people make, so it is important to remember, if you want to know how to raise your kids, which your children will take advantage of you if you let them, and that’s how they become too spoiled. There is a simple rule that you should know if you want to combat this. Kids usually crave attention, and if they start screaming and shouting, and then you will show them attention, than they will make this simple connection in their heads: they can get everything they want if they scream and shout. So the best thing to do when they start screaming and misbehaving like this is to ignore them. You will see that after a while they will calm down and they will try a different approach: they will ask nicely for what they want, and only then you should give it to them. It’s a pretty simple solution, but most parents don’t have the stomach to hear their children scream and shout so they give in too fast.

3.      Always be supportive about everything they plan on doing. Of course this doesn’t mean that you should be supportive when they say they want to burn the house down, but you should always seem interested in every little project that they come up with. This will help them build-up confidence and self esteem, which are very important in life. They should know that no matter what happens, you always have their backs. This is another very important lesson if you are wondering how to raise your kids.

4.      Never, under any circumstance strike your kids. No matter what the children do, you should remember that striking them while only adversely affect both your relationship with them and their personality. If you strike them than the children will start to hate you and this isn’t in anyone’s best interest. On the other hand, if you show them that you are very disappointed in what they have done than their most probable reaction is to do everything it takes to win back your trust, because it means that much to them.

5.      Don’t be too strict, don’t impose lots of rules. This is a very important lesson if you want to know how to raise your kids. Any rule you impose on them they will inevitably have the instinct to brake it. It’s much better to be a little more lenient, and you will find that they will be able to set their own limits, without you having to impose them. This way, they will find out, learning things the hard way, what their limits are, and you can be sure that wants they did, they won’t pass them.

So these are just a few tips that I think are very important for you if you want to know how to raise your kids. As I said, your own parental instincts are very important so you should do what you think it’s right, not what anybody else thinks is right. Nevertheless, you should always be open to advice from people with more experience than you. You might find out things that you would have never thought off by yourself. Being a good parent is very hard and it takes a lot of work, but if I want you remember only one thing from this article than this is it: Always let your children know that you love them, and that you are always there for them no matter what happens. If you get this right, all the other things will fall into place.

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