How To Use Kindness And Guilt To Your Advantage

Kindness and Guilt is a powerful combination to extract an intended behavior from any human being. These are set of emotions which when interpreted efficiently gives you an edge with minimal or no effort. Consciously or unconsciously people gets dragged into a conflict between their hearts and mind and the result is nothing but the behavior which you can expect from any normal person. This gives an edge to market yourself or your product, something which has been exploited very efficiently by Marketers since long time. While to many people these may seem as dubious techniques but in reality it is something which we use in our daily life albeit in different format. The aspect of soft skills considered for success in ones career is nothing but such techniques perfected into an art and translated into actions for an all-round growth.

Kindness derives its importance from the fact that human beings like to give back whenever they get any favor. This is an element by which people feel indebted whenever they receive any favor and if they don’t respond or give back in same proportion, the emotions inside invokes the feeling of guilt. It is this mixture of these emotions that makes a strong case to take an advantage of it.

So, whenever someone demonstrates and acts of kindness or helps you

1) You tend to feel good about the person

2) You are more than willing to give back or help the same person

3) There is a strong feeling inside you to be available for that person no matter what the situation is.

Kindness and Guilt

Not returning back is an option which is never considered. You tend not to think other way because it invokes a feeling of Guilt inside you

1) You mind is too positive to reject any negative feelings or bad actions

2) You don’t want the guilt to disturb your peace of mind

3) You want to raise yourself in your own eyes rather than eliminating you worth

This is quite natural. It is way Human beings are. You help someone and the person gets indebted by your act.

The same logic when applied to your professional life gives you tremendous advantage to rise up the ladder or atleast ward off the negative moves against you

Don’t you help your colleagues, senior, juniors or peers. Yes you do.What I am asking here is that

1) You go an extra extent to help them

2) You do everything possible to help them

3) You make sure that person knows that you have helped him

Meeting, Partying, and being Social are another aspect of Kindness. Make sure you move the right chord at right time and Voila…..

Imagine a situation where you have a boss or a client who has not yet seen your true worth. No matter how much hard you work but impressing him is too difficult. What next, Try the approach of Kindness and Guilt

1) Help person in some way or other

2) Don’t hesitate to help him in things which is beyond his professional life

3) If possible target his family with things which your Boss cannot even ignore

Yes, the family part is important

1) No matter how senior the person is, he is common man for his family folks

2) He gets influenced by their opinions

3) He gets indebted when something is done to their family

Professional use this tactic to their advantage

1) Many arrange the meetings of family with their favorite stars

2) Passes of favorite shows which they could not even imagine

3) Priority to kids at places where they yearn to be.

You need to be smart and careful about it and you would see the change in attitude.