Introvert To Extrovert – How To Change Yourself


Every one in this world has his or her personality trait. These traits develop with the period of time. You can judge the characteristics of a person by having an interaction with him/her. People may be introvert, extrovert or ambivert. Now what do we mean by this? Which personality trait is better? Questions like these might strike your mind often. Well, let’s first know about these personality traits. Starting with introvert, these are the people who tend to shrink from social contacts and become preoccupied with their own thoughts. On the other hand, extroverts are the people who are concerned with the social and physical environment. And those who are both extroverts and introverts are ambiverts. Today, because of the socialization that has not been developed according to other cultural standards, introverts are less accepted than extroverts or the outgoing individuals.

Each one of us has certain dreams and goals in our life and so it’s very crucial to realize that the world in which we live is extroverted. Today, we can find three out of every four people to be an extrovert. Being an extrovert is what the demand of the society now days. Being an extrovert, you are more likely to visit different places, communicate with strangers and build a social network that will help you in your personality development. In this way, the extrovert people get more attention than the introverts. If you are an introvert, there is nothing wrong in it and nor it’s mandatory for you to change to an extrovert. The purpose is to enjoy both the types of traits equally rather than accepting one trait and fearing the other. Having said this, let’s discuss a few steps to adapt a change from introversion to extroversion.

 

Social Skills Development:

One big problem with the introvert people is shyness. Shyness makes you tongue tied with the idea of approaching an attractive woman and introducing yourself. It leaves you with an awkward feeling and isolated at social gatherings and business place. Shyness inculcates hesitation in you – the hesitation to respond in a class, to speak up for your own needs and desires and getting them, to share ideas with your colleagues and boss and what not. You should try to be more confident and feel comfortable to start up a conversation with a stranger. Keep faith in yourself and never compare yourself to others. Keep giving yourself assignments and test yourself until you get it right. Slowly but gradually you will learn to develop your social skills.

Start Valuing Extroversion:

As said earlier, you need not give up the introvert activities you enjoy, but at the same time look at the advantages of being an extrovert. One such benefit is that it helps to boost your career. By networking, you will not only have more job opportunities but also can get your desired position and package that you have dreamt of. Another benefit can be increased chances of finding your soul mate by expanding your circle and having interactions with them. So, never undervalue extroversion. Rather try to make a balance between both the activities.

Real time social life:

Socializing should be done by going out and communicating with people rather than doing it online. Most of the introvert people face no trouble socializing online but they should divert their focus more into face to face socializing. This will increase their confidence and stop you from being shy. In few days, you will start expressing yourself. Explore and choose the right kind of activities and people to engage in. Try hanging out with people from different ages, neighborhoods, cultures and countries. This will include diversity in your relationships and you will also enjoy it.

Give and Take relationship:

All you have to do here is to identify people with whom you would like to build a relationship and then start by giving. If you are aiming to have a huge circle of friends, then you should build new relationships based on mutual giving and receiving. In a relationship, you should not think of your own advantages rather try to work on making the bond stronger and healthier. Share your knowledge with others. This helps a lot in socializing. Try to find out what others might need in a relationship. Once you figure out this, you’ll have an easier time attracting new friends into your life.

Join a Club:

You know what you are good at. So, start looking for the people who share the similar interests. You can begin by joining a club and in case you do not find in appropriate you can quit and join some other club. One way is to join a book club which will help to turn your solitary activity into a social one. Also if you are interested in music & playing instrument then you can join a band for the same. Joining Mensa would be another intelligent choice for you to interact with variety of people. All you need is a good group with which you are comfortable.

Having talked about all this, it’s time you should understand that the vital role extroversion plays not only in your personal life, but also in your professional life. Never try to hold yourself back from socializing. By this, you are not only depriving yourself, at the same time you are also depriving the chances of other people to get you know better.

 

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4 Responses to “Introvert To Extrovert – How To Change Yourself”

  1. John says:

    Nice Post! You might be interested to see this post "a conversation with you" by Vineet  Nayar on how you can talk to yourself and identify what you can change.  http://www.vineetnayar.com/a-conversation-with-you/

  2. Introversion is not shyness and shyness is not introversion.  They are two different states.  Shyness is both an emotion – you can feel shy when facing new people if your an introvert or an extrovert – and a personality trait of someone who is modest, quiet, and sensitive and who is slow to warm up to others.  Shyness is also different from Social Axiety which is fear of being social, being criticized, and in severe cases can cause anxiety attacks and other physical symptoms. 
    Introversion has to do with how a person derives his or her energy and it is inborn and unchageable.  Introverts may or may not be shy.  They are typically quieter individuals who prefer solitary activites to social activities because they can only take the company of others for so long before they need to be alone to regain their energy.  Extroverts are typically louder, more outgoing individuals who prefer social activity to solitary activies and feel more energized the more time they spend with others.  Extroverts are typically outgoing, but they are just as likely to be shy.
    People consistenly confuse introversion, shyness, and social anxiety because people who are either of these things tend to be quieter than the average extrovert.  However, I can tell you with certaintly as an introvert who happens to be shy, they are absolutely not the same.

  3. in2ext says:

    Extroversion definitely helps in achieving goals. There's only so far you can get to without having to deal with strangers, in pursuing your dream. I blog daily about my social interactions and make notes for improvement. This helps me, an introvert, to improve social skills and push towards ambivertness.

  4. elo says:

    achieving goals has nothing to do with whether u are an extrovert or introvert, there are millions of introverts that are highly successful as there are millions of extroverts that are not.
    also introversion is not the same as shyness.
     
    do u even know what introversion means. u shd get ur facts rights.

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