The Myth Of A Miserable Failure

It happens with most of us. It is so easy for us to term other person as miserable failure without putting ourselves in their shoes. Look around the web and you would find scores of people who have been termed as miserable failure by others. They can be right or they can be wrong, the question is not about their judgment, the question is more about the decisions an individual take and those getting judged by other people. Just like the coin has two sides, in a similar manner every situation can be dealt in many ways. A decision taken at a particular moment is influenced by factors and it may not be possible for all to see the bigger picture.

Critics are everywhere. Infact you are lucky if you are being criticized because that shows that you are important enough to be considered by others. In today’s world people do get into criticism to get the focus back on themselves. Terming miserable failure or a bad publicity is not desirable but then it is always a viewpoint of few imposed on others in a big way. The main point I am highlighting here is that criticism or bad publicity is all part of the game and how you take them defines you and not the person who is inflicting it on you. Let’s talk about miserable failure in more detail and see an unbiased perspective that one can take on it.

Why others see you as Miserable Failure

1) Because you fared much below their expectations

2) You have done something so badly that wasn’t expected out of you

3) You lived much below par their belief

But essentially it is

1) Their Viewpoint

2) Their Assessment

3) Their Judgment

They May be

1) Missing The Bigger Picture

2) Don’t Have all the context

3) Missing the relevant details

The point is not if other thinks of you as miserable failure. The point is what you think of yourself.

1) Do you think you haven’t fared as per expectations

2) Do you think you did pretty well but others can’t understand you

3) You think that you did best in the situation and with limited choices

Apart from above, more important is, whether terming you as miserable failure or your criticism

1) Affects you

2) Changes you path

3) Make you deviate from your decision or even change it

History is filled with examples where people have been termed miserable failure and

1) People or Leaders have been insanely criticized

2) Their every step has been questioned

3) Their every move has been vilified

But Only Time Validated their actions.

If You know what you did was best in the situation you were in

1) You need to be ready to bear the consequences

2) You need to be ready to face results

3) You need to be ready to take corrective actions

Beyond that people terming you as miserable failure should not count and it should not affect your decisions.

Once you are signed in to your fate, it is best to ignore the disturbing voices.

Because Big steps need Big decisions.

Miserable Failure is others Viewpoint. You are what You see yourself in Your own eyes.

The purpose of this article is to highlight the fact that some positions are entrusted with responsibilities that involve controversial decisions. In those situations it is not always easy to satisfy the wishes of all. So if you ever got termed by others as miserable failure you should not be bogged down by it. You need to do what you job is and you need to take decisions for the benefit of larger goal.

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