What are the things that determine a successful relationship? What exactly does it mean to have a successful relationship? Having a “successful relationship” means different things to different people depending on the type of association they are into. In an intimate relationship the expected success should be marriage; a happy “till death do us apart” kind of relationship. The same goes for other types like platonic, business, etc relationship where the goal will be to achieve a honest and greater profits accordingly. So starting a successful relationship is a quest that is achievable in any type of alliance as long as the right ingredient that will lead to that goal is available. Do you want to have a successful relationship with your husband? Well, the answer off course should be yes, because no sensible person set out to fail in any endeavor and as long as you are involve with another person for any reason at all, the question in your mind among many others will be: what do I expect from this relationship, what am I suppose to contribute to the relationship that will make it achieve its aim etc. If you are observant you will notice the question is directed towards the “relationship” and not the person involved why? The reason is because in starting a successful relationship quest like marriage, girlfriend/boyfriend etc, three people are involved: the man, woman and the relationship, yes! Relationship is a person, want to find out how, read on.

Relationship As A Triangle

Do you know the reason why people fail in any relationship? The reason is they are doing some thing wrong, something like “me and me alone relationship error”. The man is busy seeing to his needs; the lady is bothered about what she wants and no one knows what the relationship needs. This is a normal selfish relationship setting. A lady sees a man, likes the way he spends, the way his looks and carried away want to date him. On the other hand, the man loves the fact that she is beautiful, sexy, outgoing and will sure want to date her and most importantly have sex with her. So they start dating, focused on their selfish needs not bothering on the afterwards or the long term goal, they take the day as it comes, and when the blinds are torn open, their desires (which are temporal anyway) waned and next thing is end the relationship. Take another scenario, the lady sees this guy, genuinely likes him and would want to have a lasting connection with him. The guy coincidentally feels the same and next thing they start dating, spending time together, the man takes the lady home to see mama and vise versa, marriage surfaces and they got marriage but it did not last more than a year. What do you think went wrong?

Any relationship where time, energy, knowledge and wisdom are not invested into it is bound to fail. You are not suppose to spend time alone meeting your desires, what about the desire of the relationship itself. Every relationship needs an ingredient to make it successful so when you encounter a topic like starting a successful relationship it has to do with; the man, woman and the relationship itself, all three making up the relationship triangle. Now what exactly can you do to make that relationship a success?

Questions To Ask For  A Successful Relationship:

1.                  What is your target: Relationship is not a “me and me alone” business, it is a “you, us and me” thing. Your partner’s interest comes first, then the interest of “us” (the relationship) and lastly you. What you can contribute in that relationship to make it work must be your prior interest; your spouse or boyfriend desires, and the positive relationship traits must also be present and they are: selflessness, patience, kindness, willpower, tolerance, self control, respect etc are some of the important traits that a relationship needs to work.

2.                  What is your religious disposition? If you are a Christian, would you mind a Hindu man or woman? Many people come together without handling the issue of religion, there is religious intolerance everywhere and the relationship setting is no different. So starting a successful relationship quest should also include religion considerations, discuss it before going far in the relationship.

3.                  What is his or her sexual priorities, is it sex before marriage or after marriage? Find out

4.                  Is he or she a drug (smoke, alcohol, hard drugs) person?

5.                  How much of this person do you know? Life history, reasons for past relationship breakup etc.

6.                  What is your goal in the relationship: marriage or fling?

7.                  Would he/she want children?

There are many others question that you are expected to ask in a relationship especially if it is dating, the ones listed above should get you swinging in the right direction to taking the right steps in starting a successful relationship.

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