Relationship is a very serious affair. No matter where you are today, it all started with a relationship. Relationship means the instance of been related or in association with another. It involves two or more persons; an individual cannot be in a relationship. What you become on earth depends on how you treat your relationship. How you behave in a relationship constitutes relationship portholes. If you are in a business relationship with group of other business men the onus fall on you to behave properly, become trustworthy, hardworking, dependable and professional; generally put in your quota to help the association achieve its goal. You will surely be remembered for it and accepted every where because there will be a personal data or resume available as a proof. But if opposite is the case, maybe you defrauded others, become greedy, dishonest, undependable etc, you create a crack or porthole in the relationship which has led to its dearth, the consequences will be hatred, annihilation from others and blacklisted, not to talk of number of enemy you would have accumulated for yourself. So relationship porthole is simply the things people do that creates cracks in a association. This goes for all types of relationship; marriage, platonic and business relationships. Some of the cracks are discussed in this article and how to avoid them.

Relationship Crack Or Portholes

From the introductory part of this article, you already know what relationship portholes means, in this section you will further gain knowledge by learning examples of these relationship portholes and the possible consequences.

1.        Distrust: No relationship can survive without trust or the element of it. The reason is because, since there are many things that needs to be done and it is impossible to do it alone, ethics demands that you allow those you are in relationship with to do it. If the trust is not there, the tendencies are that, you will become a do all alone person and the consequences – never get things done and goals unachieved. Example is a team leader. If you are a team leader and do not trust your member to get things done, you will slow down progress, depress your members, and worst of all become a nuisance, which could lead to a sack. Also in a marriage relationship. If a man distrusts his wife, or the other way round, the home is in trouble. The consequences are troubled homes and divorces cases.

2.        Greed: Covetousness and greed goes together. Habit of wanting everything under fair or foul circumstances is fatal in any relationship. Greed in history is responsible to a whole lot of evil events like death, bloodshed etc. Example is in the case of most African leaders, who allow greed to cause a relationship porthole in the nation. They rule badly, work and amass money for their pockets alone at the detriment of the people and the nation causing riots and most cases wars. A greedy manager, husband or wife, friend is an unnecessary evil in a relationship and as usual the effect is nothing but destruction.

3.        Lack of communication: Communication is a veritable tool in a relationship. If you are in a relationship and the door of communication is close, you unconsciously open that association up to unwanted guests. Imagine a wall filled with cracks, what do you think will happen? Snakes, lizards and other dangerous and unwanted guest will crawl in. The same goes for relationship portholes, if a couple in marriage situation does not communicate effectively, there will be a break in communication, redundant information and eventually problems.

4.        Intolerance: Not tolerating other people weaknesses will lead to conflicts and destruction of mission and goals

5.        pride

6.        disobedience

7.        ignorance

Solution

After learning the different relationship portholes, it is only natural to discuss the solution, which is not really hard, thank God!

i.               Have a craving for excellence

ii.            Be a people person

iii.          Invite your colleagues to present their opinions before arriving at a decision

iv.          Trust others, though do not make it an habit especially if it is not within a relationship context

v.             Have a balance mentality

vi.          Conduct frequent check on your relationship. Husband or wife should examine their feelings for one another, find out if the care, love, romance and other vital emotions are still in place, if not find out why. Why is you wife jittery, easily irritated etc. in business settings, teams leaders should find out what they are doing right or wrong.

vii.        Be prayerful

viii.     Be focus on goals

ix.          Do not be selfish or concentrate on personal desires, work for people and others will work for you

x.             Do the opposite of what was mentioned as a list of relationship portholes above.

It is important that one knows that there is such a thing as relationship portholes because knowing is a first step to solving. So pay attention to your relationship and remember that goals must be achieved together as long as it is a relationship.

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