Signs Of An Unhealthy Relationship

Relations need much care and nourishment to stay green and healthy. Good and intimate relations need greater care to help them last long. If you want to make a relationship successful, you need to improve the ‘You’ element in it and reduce the ‘I’ syndrome. No relation can survive long with too much of ‘I’ factor in it. This is true at both the ends and then only it can be called a healthy and lasting relationship. Compromise is an essential part of the engine that drives relationships. Be it your spouse, child, friend, colleague, parent or any other relation, you both need to understand the importance of staying associated and should pay the dues. One way contribution will not be able to sustain the system. Both parts need to contribute equally. But the damage is mostly result of the negligence or carelessness from either of the point. It can be controlled by correcting the behaviour or improving the situation. It is true that even the strongest foundation might shake in a severe storm or quake but a good seismograph can help you detect the impending risk and get alarmed of it in good time. There are some signs which may warn you about the breach at an initial stage, which, if neglected, might endanger the foundation. Given here are some common signs of an unhealthy relationship, which might prove helpful in identifying such threats to a happy life.

Ignorance – The person who is not interested in you any longer would start ignoring you and even your conversations. He/she would do it at most of the occasions, whenever he/she can, and would prefer/pretend to be engaged in others company more than staying with you during any party or social occasion. He/she would not be talking/walking with you and would rather use every opportunity to ignore you. This would give you a distinct sign of rot setting in your relationship and calls for immediate attention to the situation. You should talk to the person personally and understand what is bothering him/her. Discussing problem mutually can serve a timely solution of the problem and your relationship might return on track.

Irritation – Some time, the person, who has lost or losing interest in relationship with you, might inflict bitter treatment upon you or might get irritated even on your usual behaviour, which he/she would have fairly welcomed earlier. S/he might contradict even simplest of your decision and get irritated on your insisting on/interfering in anything that you might feel the most ordinary thing otherwise; such as suggesting dress code, commenting on his/her appearance, or just informing him/her of your views about his new company. Again, solution lies not in retaliating in the same manner, but in mutual discussion it does. You will need to make real efforts to convince him to talk, though.

Degradation – If the person is bearing hatred for you, s/he would not hesitate degrading you before others. S/he might often indulge in talking low of your nature, activities and may even make a laughing stock of you in public. This sign also acknowledges the fact that there had never been a hearty relation between you two. Sometimes talking with the person can help improve the situation, chances are low though. If you see that, despite of all your conversations, your friend or colleague is stooping to this sort of activity, there is little hope of improvement now.

Change in Behaviour – If you suddenly experience change in behaviour of your partner, friend or colleague particularly with you, while s/he stays normal with others, chances are that something is amiss somewhere. The change might be of any type such as avoiding your company, ignoring your remarks or suggestions, not asking you for a favour, not initiating any conversation with you, paying your dues or returning the things that you had left with him/her etc. these are the signs of an unhealthy relationships and needs for an immediate repair.

Silence – if your partner, spouse, friend or colleague is abnormally silent with you and not taking part voluntarily in any friendly or serious conversation, it is the time to review the latest exchanges you have had with him/her. Has there been anything that s/he might not have liked or something that might have shacked his/her faith in your relationship? It can be anything such as you have supported someone who s/he is averse of, you have denied something that s/he might have asked from you, or simply s/he is disappointed about your remarks. These small factors, if not repaired in time, may do a great damage later. Find out the fault and correct it in a timely manner to enjoy lasting relationship.

Given above are some of the signs of unhealthy relationship which, if you keep your eyes open and ears to the ground, might warn you of the impending misfortune and give you an opportunity to assess and reassess the situations and introduce improvements. Remember, a good relationship is the most valuable asset in life.

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