It might some as a surprise to you but we can all act as counselors in people around us by only participating in their stories. I have seen people doing it many times especially when I talk to my big sister about any of my problems. She always participates in my stories and somehow finds connection with hers. Even I find it shocking sometimes but somehow sometimes our different stories have the same outcomes or effects in our lives. If you are holding a position be it-teacher, supervisor, trainer or just being the oldest in your family then you have the privilege of people coming to you for help. You should use your role properly and use it to motivate the people that come to you for help. As I said before a great way to motivate people is by participating in their stories.

Tips To Motivate People By Participating In Their Stories:

·        Try to find a connection with their story with one of your stories:  If you want to motivate them then it is always better to find a connection between their stories with experiences of your life. You should always talk about the hardship that you have gone through and always highlight the benefits that experience gave you. Sometimes people see only the negatives in their stories and forget to see the positives. It should be your job to highlight these positives. Once I was going through a bad break-up and could not think straight and was thinking about going back to my ex but one of my friends told me that her ex had the same characteristics like mine and she regrets that she got back with him after  breaking up. She said she only increased her own suffering by that. This is why she told me to get busy with my work so that I do not feel lonely and think about what I was missing in my life because of my relationship with my partner. Her advice made me think a lot and though it was hard I finally did get over my ex and now I am leading a life I do not think I could live if I was in a relationship with him.

·        When people talk about their stories try to highlight the positives again and again: When people come to you about a bad experience always try to highlight the positives of that story. For example if a friend comes with a problem in his/her job then try to motivate him/her about highlighting the positives about the job. Talk about people who are in a worse situation than your friend and talk about how lucky s/he is to have a job in this tough economy.

·        Sympathize with them but do not demoralize them: I have seen people who demoralize people by talking about sad things when others are talking about their sad stories. If you are going to demoralize people with your sad stories though they are already hurt or sad then it is better you do not participate at all. Your job should be to motivate people by participating in their stories but not in exchange of giving them more pain! Some think that if they talk about their sad stories and prove that their experience was worse than others then it might help other people to get motivate but let me tell you it is not true! Making someone more miserable by telling your sad story is not going to make them feel any better!

We experience many things in our lives. Some give us happy memories others make us sad but it is the course of life. Life is a journey with many ups and downs and we have to face them no matter what. We should learn from our mistakes and move on with our lives. Motivate people by participating in their stories by telling that this is LIFE. Our experiences make us the person we are and we should always make be strong enough to face the dreadful experience as well as be clever enough to find the positives in them so that we can learn from our mistakes and do not have to face other dreadful experiences in the future. So, learn from your stories and remember the positives. When people come to talk to you about their stories; participate in their stories and motivate them. Motivating people by participating in their stories can only be done by people who are open-minded and who want well being of others. If you want to become a motivator to others then I advise you to remember the above tips.

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