What Makes A Good Parent


Parenting is a pleasure and a very big responsibility too. The tiny creature which is brought into this world should be given love, affection and care so that he turns out to be a good individual in the society. Every parent brings up their kids by giving them proper food, shelter, proper education, love and affection. But the big question is what makes a good parent? Is it giving them every thing what they ask for by saying yes to their every requirement or being a disciplinarian? Parent means father and mother; they are the origin or cause for the young one. Every individual’s responsibility doubles from day 1 the child is born till the child becomes a young man or woman and take care of themselves (even then that individual will be having a sort of anxiety regarding their reaction to a certain situation in office or at home or regarding their financial position); “because that individual is a parent”.

Let Us See What Makes A Good Parent:

·        Most mothers do not show interest in breast feeding their infants. This is wrong. By breast feeding the mother gets in physical contact with the infant. This increases the attachment between them. An infant likes to be cuddled in their lap, likes his mother’s and father’s touch; he feels secured with them. That is why most infants do not show inclination in going to other people when they come near them. Expressing love to them in this manner increases the family bond while increasing attachment with parents. Even if mother is working she can go in for breast feeding while doing her work too. It is stressful for the mother. At these times taking help from spouse will be relieving. What makes mother and father good parent is giving the baby maximum time until he/she does tiny jobs by themselves.

·        Some kids get scared for small things; like going into a dark room alone or seeing heavy rains with big thunders.  They need you during that time. Give your warm and secured hand to them. Not only these fears, some kids get scared to study a particular subject, to write an exam, fear of qualifying in the exam, sometimes even to talk to future spouse. Well your moral support helps the kid to achieve great heights. A good parent gives moral support to the kids. Infact, every parent does give moral support in their own way. But sometimes you have to go into kid’s way, put yourself in their shoes and think from their point of view.

·        The first thing which makes a good parent is reaction towards the kid when he/she does a mistake. Any child does not do a mistake intentionally. It happens by mistake and that is why it is called as mistake. Being too harsh with them at that time hurts their tender feelings.  What makes an individual good parent is timely stress on good habits and timely punishment on bad habits. Spanking the kid makes matters worse.

·        Do not show your parental bossism in front of your kid when he tries to express something. That something might be any new thing which you do not know. Do not be egoistic at those times. Always remember any new thing which is good even if learnt from kids will be helpful. Showing your egoistic attitude in front of them makes them think that you do not even listen to what ever they say. This leads to dangerous after effects like “hiding from parents”. What makes a good parent is not showing your egoistic attitude and considering your kid as an individual.

·        Be a good listener to your child. However busy you are, listen to every sentence they talk. But if you are attending to an emergency work, express to them that you are attending an emergency work. If you make them understand about the urgency, they will surely understand it and there after do not disturb you. And when you have completed it make sure you go to the kid and talk to him. What makes a good parent is being receptive to your child.   

·        The kid’s emotional and behavioral responses depend on the house atmosphere. This involves relation ship between husband and wife and their relation towards the child. If the child sees his mother and father continuously quarrelling, the child either turns out irresponsible or very cowardly even to face the public. What makes a good parent is behaving with the child in a very smooth and polished way even if there are minor differences between husband and wife.

Note: sometimes during quarrel husband out of trying to win an argument becomes more dominative. Woman feels bad about it. She cannot express anything to him and sits calmly not even talking about it or feeling bad to talk about it. Kids get scared when a minor tiff crops up between his parents; the kid does not do anything during that time but sits calmly at the corner of a room not even expressing anything but blinking his eye, putting  innocent blank face to his mother. At those situations if mother or father comes near to him and says “everything will be fine do not worry!” the kid agitated mental state calms down. What makes you a good parent is giving good manners and shaping your child’s character (to be a good person in the society) even with tiffs, quarrels and egoistic problems with your spouse.

 What makes an individual good parent is decided by the way you deal with your kid taking into consideration how you were dealt by your parents; because you have grown up under their guidance, care, love and affection. Certain times you must have felt that a particular behavior by your parent was not good or they should have dealt in a more poised manner, in such situations do not behave in that manner with your kid. Psychologists always guide husband and wife to be good when the wife conceives. A kid’s mentality and behavior depends completely on the couples intimacy and love when the woman is pregnant. Becoming a good parent is a day to day lesson. The tips given in this article rectify any individual’s tiny mistakes in trying to become a good parent.

 

 

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