How successful or popular you become in a job depends upon the positive vibes your body emanates. Body language tells amazing things about a person which you can never extract in a normal conversation. Success in a job is a mixture of host of factors and being positive about your co-workers is one of them. When in job it becomes essentially important to be committed and motivated in order to give your best. The taste of success makes you want it more and you get a habit of it. However during this journey there are a host of habits you would acquire which shapes up your personality. A negative attitude about your co-workers in your thoughts, your language, or action sometimes is some of them. While every situation or a job has its own pressure but the magic lies in getting the best out of everything. Talking bad about your co-workers hurts you more than anyone else. Some years back I had a chance to share my project with someone more senior to me. I started working on it with an attitude to learn but found the other person to be equally opposite. The more I used to work, the more I was pushed back in my efforts. On top of it my senior started to talk bad things about me and gave everyone a feeling that I am no good in anything. Slowly I started to lose interest in my project and my thoughts lost the track. I started to talk bad things about my senior. My mind was focused more on how to find faults in him and how to expose him. I felt helpless that company was not taking any action on him and that intensified my efforts to prove him bad. I was always looking for an opportunity to talk bad things about him with other people. My schedule was upset and I started to look for excuses. Ultimately I decided to look for a new job The problem came when I did introspection and found that I was in deep love with my job and my company. I didn’t want to change my job and that too by being a loser. Yes a loser because this situation can occur in any company and how many companies I could have shifted because of this behavior. I decided one night to do a 360 degree turn and change my attitude. Next day I avoided talking bad things or even discussing about my senior with other people. I focused my energy on my job. I was pushed back again and again but I carried on. My work was rejected and flaws were found in my deliverables but I took it as a feedback and improved on it. On the way I realized that many people instigated me to talk bad or say something bad about my senior which I avoided. The urge within me sometimes was very strong but I controlled it. Every time anyone said bad thing about him either I remained silent or casually ignored it with some good comment. There was a dramatic change in my body language and thoughts. My thoughts were more positive because I had decided not to think or talk bad things about anyone. My body language improved because my thoughts were showing up directly through it. One can always talk of other attributes in my behavior but I myself realized that my mind was so light and I was feeling more relaxed about it. Also in the process I found that since I was negative, anything that happened between us was treated as negative by me. No matter what we talked or discussed, I was looking for some fault in it or even comprehended it in a very bad manner. Things changed for better just because I was positive throughout. I was surprised when I got rewarded on the same project based on recommendation of my senior. The comment was that I am a kind of guy who never gives up. I regretted the time I lost in whole process. My only lessons was that if you are positive and shun bad thinking about your co-workers than no one can stop you from success. Another aspect of same habit is that what if the other person comes to know that you have been talking bad about him. I would cover this more in my other post from different mindset. Meanwhile I would request my readers to try this out. It will really make you feel light and give you positive energy.

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